By World Ruler Sher Trott Bailey

The value of a wife is not found in her beauty, her job title, or how well she can hold her wine in social settings. No. That’s the illusion sold to weak men and foolish women. A wife’s true value lies in her character, her submission, and her unshakeable loyalty to a man worthy of leading a family.

Let’s set this straight: not all wives are equal, and many women in “marriages” today are not truly wives in the biblical, spiritual, or practical sense. Some are undercover rebels, emotionally flippant squatters merely enjoying benefits without ever embracing the sacrifice that real marriage demands. Some marriages, frankly, are not marriages in God’s eyes—just glorified cohabitation arrangements laced with legal convenience and societal performance.

But I won’t waste ink on the value of just any woman who goes by “wife.” This piece is about the good wife—the rare hardwood, not the common softwood. I’ll speak briefly on her value, particularly in submission, and let my life—our life—be the continuing scroll of evidence for those who have eyes to see.

My Life Is Proof Enough

For those curious readers who demand receipts, they’re in full public display. Our lived life—The Trott Bailey Family—is a breathing documentary. You can watch the living value of a wife in our love, our unity, the excellence of our children, our decisions, and our world-shaping vision.

Go ahead, see for yourself on Trott Bailey Family Oasis Videos &1 Drop:

  • Our humble beginnings: K.B. & Sher, two lights recognizing each other in the dark.
  • Where we are now: Big King & World Ruler.
  • Where we are going: Builders of the new earth, authors of a new civilization.

We are not just speaking truth—we are living it out loud.

The Trigger Word: Submission

Submission. That dreaded word for many modern women. Feminism trained them to flinch. The mere suggestion of submitting to a man sends them into frothing fits.

But let me explain what submission in marriage truly means:

“I submit my whole mind, soul, and body to the service of my husband, in our shared agreement which is our marriage, and toward our unified goal of bringing all things good—love, peace, honor, joy, wealth, and wisdom—into our family, especially for our children and their children.

I submit to the superior physical strength and godly positioning of the man, he is the forward facing stalwart for our family, our shield. He takes the brunt of the beatings and physical battles for our family, hence as his wife it is my duty to make sure that myself and our household are their to support him fully. I acknowledge that even if I am equally or even superior in mental dexterity on mutual subjects, as he is superior over me in many other subject areas, I the woman get worn out much quicker than my husband/ lose interest and I usually just want to go back to being taken care of and take a swim. These are personal examples…I have joined my life to the most admirable man possible, in my estimation for my heart, for our children and I am not put off by the idea of submitting to him.“

Submission also has a second meaning, it means as his right hand support, I am there to submit proposals, perspectives, ingenuitive ideas and thought processes to ease his burdens, to placate negative emotions and open his eyes to other ways/routes to our goals. While I cannot keep up with his physical stamina or even mental( for. E.g. while I can match Big King mentally in terms of intelligence, he is most definitely not sensitive and emotionally driven in many subject areas or life happenings that would rile me up or sadden me down -especially when it comes to anything happening with our children. I submit to my husband as his wife to where he can use the level of natural talents and cultivated talents that I have built on, to offer strategies, ideas, new pursuits etc, to his better judgement, for him to ponder on and make the final decisions for the good of the family”

That’s not slavery. That’s not oppression. That’s intelligent delegation, righteous order, and divine structure.

A wise wife doesn’t compete with her husband—she complements & completes him.

She submits not because she’s less. She submits because she sees the godly position he’s been given. She recognizes him as the family’s shield, the frontliner, the one whose chest meets the arrow before it even reaches the gate. If he is the sword, she is the sheath. If he is the tree, she is the root system.

Even if a wife possesses equal or greater mental dexterity in certain subjects, she understands that a good man’s capacity is designed to carry more for longer, not just in muscle but in mental endurance. He doesn’t crack under pressure like she might when something happens to the kids. And that’s okay. That’s why she submits her proposals, her insights, her ideas—and lets the Captain decide the best route. Submission isn’t silence—it’s wisdom in motion.

Submission Is a Gift

There’s a second layer to submission that most people overlook: it’s not just surrender, it’s support through strategy. A good wife submits:

  • Ideas
  • Warnings
  • Inspiration
  • Comfort
  • Perspective

But she doesn’t undermine. She doesn’t insult him in public, mock his leadership, or “punish” him with passive aggression. No, she sharpens him behind closed doors, then stands proudly beside him in public.

She doesn’t submit because she is weak. She submits because her husband is worthy, and she is wise.

Why Many Wives Fail at Submission

Let’s talk plainly.

Many women “submit” only as long as things are going their way. As long as the man is performing according to their shallow metrics:

  • Job title ✔
  • Salary ✔
  • Social image ✔

But let that man lose his job. Let public shame touch his name. Suddenly, their “submission” gets swapped for complaints, disrespect, and withdrawal.

That’s not a wife. That’s a groupie who turned sour.

The value of a wife is in her ability to submit even through difficulty. She has pre-qualified her husband’s leadership through character, not cosmetics. And because she chose him wisely, she stays loyal even when the storms hit.

As for me, I was spiritually told: “This is your husband. Marry this man. Have his children.”
And I obeyed. Because everything in him radiated true leadership. His action. His word. His consistency.

It took me three days to sleep after meeting him—my soul was on fire.
But even with that kind of spiritual confirmation, I remained watchful.

That’s how real queens move. They don’t get fooled by flattery and flash. They look for hardwood. For solid captains worthy of loyalty.

Hardwood vs. Softwood

Softwood pretends. Softwood is performative. Softwood folds under pressure.

But hardwood? Hardwood is tested. Hardwood sacrifices. Hardwood is the reason a man wakes up and says, “I will die for this woman, and I will conquer the world for our children.”

Ladies, ask yourself: Are you hardwood or softwood?

Men, ask yourselves: Did you marry a woman who adds to your peace or subtracts from your power?

FAQ: The Value of a Wife

1. Is submission outdated in modern marriages?
No. It’s timeless. Divine structure doesn’t expire. It only gets ignored by cultures that self-destruct.

2. Can a wife be intelligent and still submit?
Yes. Submission isn’t stupidity. It’s strategy. Smart wives submit because they know what’s at stake.

3. What if the husband isn’t worthy of submission?
Then he shouldn’t have been chosen. Women must evaluate men before marriage, not during.

4. Should a wife blindly obey her husband?
No. Submission includes perspective and input. But final authority—especially in key matters—rests with the Captain.

5. Can submission be mutual?
Yes, in love and support. But in final decision-making, God placed that burden on the man. Someone has to be the shield.

6. What makes a man worthy of submission?
Integrity. Consistency. Vision. Responsibility. Faith. Wisdom. Sacrifice. Leadership. Peace under pressure.

7. What happens when a wife refuses to submit?
Chaos. Confusion. Power struggle. Emotional instability. Eventually, spiritual corrosion of the household.

8. Does submission mean the wife has no voice?
Absolutely not. It means her voice is trusted and respected—then passed through the filter of his final judgment.

9. Can a marriage survive without submission?
Only in mediocrity or dysfunction. True greatness in a family demands order and harmony.

10. What if a wife submits, but the husband abuses that authority?
That’s no longer leadership. That’s tyranny. A man who violates trust forfeits his spiritual authority and will answer to God.

Final Word: Submission Isn’t Slavery. It’s Strategy.

The value of a wife isn’t in how many inspirational quotes she reposts on Instagram. It’s in how she handles structure, sacrifice, and submission in real life.

And just as not all wood can be used to build a throne, not all women can be called a wife.

If you are a wife or preparing to be one, stop measuring yourself by modern metrics.
Instead, ask your husband—or future husband:

“Do I multiply your peace or your problems?”
“Do I sharpen your vision or blur your focus?”
“Do I offer submission as support, or do I wear rebellion as independence?”

Be hardwood. Be capable. Be strategic.
Be a wife of value.