Trott Bailey Family Civilization Does Not Shrug at Family Suffering<\/title>\n\n <style>\n :root {\n --bg: #f4eadc;\n --paper: #fffaf1;\n --ink: #21170f;\n --muted: #6b5948;\n --accent: #8c2f18;\n --accent-dark: #5f1e10;\n --line: #d8c4aa;\n --soft: #f7eadb;\n --deep-soft: #f1dfcf;\n }\n\n body {\n margin: 0;\n background: var(--bg);\n color: var(--ink);\n font-family: Georgia, \"Times New Roman\", serif;\n line-height: 1.72;\n font-size: 18px;\n }\n\n .page {\n max-width: 900px;\n margin: 48px auto;\n padding: 28px;\n }\n\n article {\n background: var(--paper);\n padding: 50px;\n border: 1px solid var(--line);\n box-shadow: 0 18px 45px rgba(65, 40, 20, 0.12);\n }\n\n .series {\n color: var(--accent);\n font-size: 0.95rem;\n font-weight: bold;\n letter-spacing: 0.04em;\n text-transform: uppercase;\n margin-bottom: 10px;\n }\n\n h1 {\n font-size: clamp(2rem, 5vw, 3.3rem);\n line-height: 1.08;\n margin: 0 0 28px;\n color: var(--accent-dark);\n }\n\n h2 {\n color: var(--accent-dark);\n font-size: 1.55rem;\n line-height: 1.25;\n margin-top: 42px;\n margin-bottom: 16px;\n border-top: 1px solid var(--line);\n padding-top: 24px;\n }\n\n p {\n margin: 0 0 20px;\n }\n\n .emphasis {\n font-size: 1.14rem;\n color: var(--accent-dark);\n background: var(--soft);\n border-left: 5px solid var(--accent);\n padding: 22px;\n margin: 30px 0;\n }\n\n .example {\n background: var(--soft);\n border: 1px solid var(--line);\n padding: 26px;\n margin: 28px 0;\n }\n\n .truth {\n background: var(--deep-soft);\n border: 1px solid var(--line);\n padding: 30px;\n margin-top: 32px;\n font-weight: bold;\n color: var(--accent-dark);\n }\n\n strong {\n color: var(--accent-dark);\n }\n\n @media (max-width: 700px) {\n .page {\n margin: 0;\n padding: 0;\n }\n\n article {\n padding: 28px 20px;\n border: none;\n box-shadow: none;\n }\n\n body {\n font-size: 17px;\n }\n\n .emphasis,\n .example,\n .truth {\n padding: 20px;\n }\n }\n <\/style>\n<\/head>\n\n<body>\n <main class=\"page\">\n <article>\n <div class=\"series\">Trott Bailey Family Civilization Article<\/div>\n\n <h1>Trott Bailey Family Civilization Does Not Shrug at Family Suffering<\/h1>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization stands against the lazy answer that says, \u201cThat\u2019s life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n <p>When spouses are worn down, people say, \u201cThat\u2019s marriage.\u201d When parents are exhausted, people say, \u201cThat\u2019s parenting.\u201d When every child brings more financial pressure, people say, \u201cThat\u2019s being an adult.\u201d When families have no safe park, no grass, no free open space, no beautiful place to take their children without spending money, people say, \u201cThat\u2019s just how the world is.\u201d<\/p>\n\n <p>When free healthcare is slow, understocked, painful, poorly organized, or humiliating, people say, \u201cAt least it\u2019s free.\u201d When a husband and wife love each other, love their children, reduce their own comfort, wear the same shoes, give up grooming, give up nice clothing, choose daily work over salaried work so they can stay close, and still cannot buy a broom or blender without thinking it over, people say, \u201cThat\u2019s life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n <div class=\"emphasis\">\n <p>No.<\/p>\n <p>That is not just life.<\/p>\n <p>That is bad governance. That is civilization disorder. That is family life being interrupted by systems that were not built around family.<\/p>\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not shrug at that.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n\n <h2>Love Should Not Have to Fight Every System<\/h2>\n\n <p>A husband and wife can love each other deeply and still be strained by the world around them. They can study each other, delight in each other, want to alleviate each other\u2019s burdens, want more children, want peace in the home, want time together, and choose family over status. But love keeps getting interrupted.<\/p>\n\n <div class=\"example\">\n <p>A husband and wife may love each other deeply and still spend the morning negotiating pressure instead of enjoying each other. The baby needs food. The older child needs space to run. The house needs a broom. The blender would make feeding easier, but buying it means delaying something else. There is no nearby park with grass, so taking the children outside means walking near traffic or spending money. If someone needs care, the free clinic may take hours, and even then the family may leave without what they needed. By the end of the day, the spouses are not distant because they stopped loving each other. They are distant because the world took their time, their attention, their patience, and their braincells.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n\n <p>Bills interrupt. Rent interrupts. Food prices interrupt. Transport interrupts. Bad housing interrupts. Noise interrupts. Unsafe roads interrupt. Lack of parks interrupts. Long work hours interrupt. Disorganized services interrupt. Money gates interrupt. Bad governance interrupts.<\/p>\n\n <p>The problem is not only whether the spouses love each other. The problem is that civilization keeps entering the marriage and taking up space. It steals time, thought, softness, patience, rest, and the braincells spouses need for each other and their children.<\/p>\n\n <p>Then people look at the tired husband and wife and tell them to communicate better.<\/p>\n\n <p>Communicate where? After how many hours of work? With what rest? With what food security? With what safe childcare? With what quiet? With what household tools? With what park? With what mental space?<\/p>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not blame spouses for being strained by a badly ordered world. It asks why the world is ordered in a way that keeps straining them.<\/p>\n\n <h2>Children Are Not the Problem<\/h2>\n\n <p>Children are not the problem.<\/p>\n\n <p>A new child is not a downgrade in life. A new child is not less dignity, less mobility, less household ease, less rest, less beauty, less access, less space, and more fear. A child is life. A child is future. A child is family increase. A child is not a financial punishment.<\/p>\n\n <p>But this money-crazed world makes children feel expensive before it lets them feel wonderful. Every child becomes a calculation. Can we afford another bed? Can we afford food? Can we afford shoes? Can we afford medicine? Can we afford transport? Can we afford a bigger place? Can we afford childcare? Can we afford to rest? Can we afford to enjoy this baby?<\/p>\n\n <p>That is wicked.<\/p>\n\n <p>Parenting begins to feel like strain not because children are bad, and not because parents are weak, but because almost everything children need is either gatekept by money or badly organized by governance. Children need space, movement, grass, safe routes, learning places, good food, healthcare, adults with patience, and parents who are not crushed. If a civilization makes all of that difficult, then the civilization is the problem.<\/p>\n\n <h2>Misery Is Not the Standard<\/h2>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not believe in misery and hardship as proof of adulthood. It does not treat family life as holy because people are exhausted. It does not look at sleeplessness, unsupported care, poverty pressure, bad housing, long waiting, lack of child space, and money gates and call them natural parenting.<\/p>\n\n <p>There can be difficult moments in family life. There can be sickness, crying, correction, feeding, training, protection, learning, adjustment, and seasons that demand more from the parents. But difficulty is not the design goal. Exhaustion is not the badge. Hardship is not the standard.<\/p>\n\n <p>Many burdens that people call \u201cnormal parenting\u201d are actually bad design, bad support, bad housing, bad sleep systems, bad food systems, bad childcare organization, bad public space, and bad civilization planning. Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not glorify these burdens. It studies them, names them, reduces them, shares them, prevents them, and designs them away wherever possible.<\/p>\n\n <h2>Free Should Not Mean Scraps<\/h2>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization also stands against the corruption of \u201cfree.\u201d<\/p>\n\n <p>Free does not mean slow. Free does not mean dirty. Free does not mean understocked. Free does not mean painful. Free does not mean humiliating. Free does not mean leftovers. Free does not mean the worst version of help.<\/p>\n\n <p>When free public services are badly governed, people begin to hate the very idea of free provision. They start thinking, \u201cIf it is free, what is wrong with it?\u201d That is not because free is naturally bad. It is because bad governance has attached shame, delay, shortage, and low standards to free provision.<\/p>\n\n <p>A family may go to a free basic healthcare service and wait for hours. They may arrive and find supplies out of stock. They may need dental care and discover that even basic pain-relief support is not properly available. Then money appears as the escape route.<\/p>\n\n <p>The family thinks, \u201cIf we had money, we could go somewhere better. We could get proper dental care. We could be treated with dignity. We could avoid the pain and waiting.\u201d<\/p>\n\n <p>Sometimes money gives faster access in that moment. But the deeper lie is that money is the only path to quality.<\/p>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization rejects that lie. Free must be excellent, competent, stocked, dignified, beautiful, and functional. Free provision must feel like civilization doing its job, not like a family receiving scraps from a system that does not respect them.<\/p>\n\n <h2>The Problem Keeps Being Called Normal<\/h2>\n\n <p>One of the greatest tricks of a broken civilization is that it calls its failures normal.<\/p>\n\n <p>No family space is called normal. Parents exhausted is called normal. Marriage strained by survival is called normal. Children feeling too expensive is called normal. Bad housing is called normal. Bad services are called normal. Free services humiliating people is called normal. Mothers losing softness under pressure is called normal. Fathers losing their minds to work is called normal. Spouses becoming strangers under bills and stress is called normal.<\/p>\n\n <p>Then the family is told to mature. Be an adult. Work harder. Sacrifice more. Stop complaining. That is just life.<\/p>\n\n <p>Many of these things are not natural adult burdens. They are consequences of bad arrangement.<\/p>\n\n <p>Adulthood includes responsibility, discipline, wisdom, correction, maturity, and care. Marriage includes love, faithfulness, service, forgiveness, daily learning, and the serious study of each other. Parenting includes care, teaching, correction, feeding, training, protection, and moments of real effort. But none of that means civilization disorder gets to disguise itself as adulthood.<\/p>\n\n <p>Marriage is not proven by how much the spouses can suffer. Parenting is not proven by misery. Family life is not proven by how much pressure people can survive.<\/p>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization separates real responsibility from artificial suffering.<\/p>\n\n <h2>The Grievance Has a Route<\/h2>\n\n <p>The point is not to complain forever. The point is to trace the grievance back to its source.<\/p>\n\n <p>When a spouse is exhausted, ask what drained them. When parents feel strained, ask what is badly arranged around them. When children feel expensive, ask why their needs have been turned into constant purchases. When a family cannot enjoy a simple day outside, ask where the free, safe, beautiful public spaces are.<\/p>\n\n <p>When free care feels humiliating, ask who governed it badly. When a home cannot get basic tools without serious thought, ask why ordinary household ease is behind a money gate. When marriage time disappears, ask what stole it. When family life feels harder than it needs to be, do not immediately blame the family. Trace the pressure.<\/p>\n\n <p>Much of it routes back to bad governance, bad land use, bad public design, bad work structure, bad food systems, bad transport, bad housing, bad healthcare organization, bad child-space planning, and bad civilization priorities.<\/p>\n\n <p>That is why Trott Bailey Family Civilization is not just a set of beautiful ideas. It is a correction. It says family life is the center of civilization design.<\/p>\n\n <h2>What Trott Bailey Family Civilization Stands Against<\/h2>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization stands against making spouses choose between time together and household stability. It stands against making children feel like financial punishment. It stands against fathers being swallowed by work. It stands against mothers being worn down by unsupported care. It stands against public spaces that forget children and families.<\/p>\n\n <p>It stands against free services that feel like scraps. It stands against bad governance being excused as normal life. It stands against money being treated as the only path to dignity. It stands against civilization dumping pressure onto the family and then calling the family weak.<\/p>\n\n <p>\u201cThat\u2019s life\u201d is not good enough. \u201cThat\u2019s being an adult\u201d is not good enough. \u201cAt least it\u2019s free\u201d is not good enough. \u201cWork harder\u201d is not good enough. \u201cJust communicate better\u201d is not good enough when the marriage is being invaded by systems that needed correction.<\/p>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not accept family suffering as background noise. It does not look at strained spouses and shrug. It does not look at tired parents and call it normal. It does not look at children being treated as expenses and call it reality. It does not look at badly governed services and call them generosity. It does not look at money gates and call them adulthood.<\/p>\n\n <p>It names the disorder and builds the correction.<\/p>\n\n <h2>The Condensed Truth<\/h2>\n\n <div class=\"truth\">\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not shrug at family strain and call it adulthood. It does not romanticize exhaustion. It does not treat sleeplessness, poverty, unsupported care, bad governance, and money gates as natural proof that people are mature. 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That is civilization disorder. That is family life being interrupted by systems that were not built around family.<\/p>\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not shrug at that.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n\n <h2>Love Should Not Have to Fight Every System<\/h2>\n\n <p>A husband and wife can love each other deeply and still be strained by the world around them. They can study each other, delight in each other, want to alleviate each other\u2019s burdens, want more children, want peace in the home, want time together, and choose family over status. But love keeps getting interrupted.<\/p>\n\n <div class=\"example\">\n <p>A husband and wife may love each other deeply and still spend the morning negotiating pressure instead of enjoying each other. The baby needs food. The older child needs space to run. The house needs a broom. The blender would make feeding easier, but buying it means delaying something else. There is no nearby park with grass, so taking the children outside means walking near traffic or spending money. If someone needs care, the free clinic may take hours, and even then the family may leave without what they needed. By the end of the day, the spouses are not distant because they stopped loving each other. They are distant because the world took their time, their attention, their patience, and their braincells.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n\n <p>Bills interrupt. Rent interrupts. Food prices interrupt. Transport interrupts. Bad housing interrupts. Noise interrupts. Unsafe roads interrupt. Lack of parks interrupts. Long work hours interrupt. Disorganized services interrupt. Money gates interrupt. Bad governance interrupts.<\/p>\n\n <p>The problem is not only whether the spouses love each other. The problem is that civilization keeps entering the marriage and taking up space. It steals time, thought, softness, patience, rest, and the braincells spouses need for each other and their children.<\/p>\n\n <p>Then people look at the tired husband and wife and tell them to communicate better.<\/p>\n\n <p>Communicate where? After how many hours of work? With what rest? With what food security? With what safe childcare? With what quiet? With what household tools? With what park? With what mental space?<\/p>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not blame spouses for being strained by a badly ordered world. It asks why the world is ordered in a way that keeps straining them.<\/p>\n\n <h2>Children Are Not the Problem<\/h2>\n\n <p>Children are not the problem.<\/p>\n\n <p>A new child is not a downgrade in life. A new child is not less dignity, less mobility, less household ease, less rest, less beauty, less access, less space, and more fear. A child is life. A child is future. A child is family increase. A child is not a financial punishment.<\/p>\n\n <p>But this money-crazed world makes children feel expensive before it lets them feel wonderful. Every child becomes a calculation. Can we afford another bed? Can we afford food? Can we afford shoes? Can we afford medicine? Can we afford transport? Can we afford a bigger place? Can we afford childcare? Can we afford to rest? Can we afford to enjoy this baby?<\/p>\n\n <p>That is wicked.<\/p>\n\n <p>Parenting begins to feel like strain not because children are bad, and not because parents are weak, but because almost everything children need is either gatekept by money or badly organized by governance. Children need space, movement, grass, safe routes, learning places, good food, healthcare, adults with patience, and parents who are not crushed. If a civilization makes all of that difficult, then the civilization is the problem.<\/p>\n\n <h2>Misery Is Not the Standard<\/h2>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not believe in misery and hardship as proof of adulthood. It does not treat family life as holy because people are exhausted. It does not look at sleeplessness, unsupported care, poverty pressure, bad housing, long waiting, lack of child space, and money gates and call them natural parenting.<\/p>\n\n <p>There can be difficult moments in family life. There can be sickness, crying, correction, feeding, training, protection, learning, adjustment, and seasons that demand more from the parents. But difficulty is not the design goal. Exhaustion is not the badge. Hardship is not the standard.<\/p>\n\n <p>Many burdens that people call \u201cnormal parenting\u201d are actually bad design, bad support, bad housing, bad sleep systems, bad food systems, bad childcare organization, bad public space, and bad civilization planning. Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not glorify these burdens. It studies them, names them, reduces them, shares them, prevents them, and designs them away wherever possible.<\/p>\n\n <h2>Free Should Not Mean Scraps<\/h2>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization also stands against the corruption of \u201cfree.\u201d<\/p>\n\n <p>Free does not mean slow. Free does not mean dirty. Free does not mean understocked. Free does not mean painful. Free does not mean humiliating. Free does not mean leftovers. Free does not mean the worst version of help.<\/p>\n\n <p>When free public services are badly governed, people begin to hate the very idea of free provision. They start thinking, \u201cIf it is free, what is wrong with it?\u201d That is not because free is naturally bad. It is because bad governance has attached shame, delay, shortage, and low standards to free provision.<\/p>\n\n <p>A family may go to a free basic healthcare service and wait for hours. They may arrive and find supplies out of stock. They may need dental care and discover that even basic pain-relief support is not properly available. Then money appears as the escape route.<\/p>\n\n <p>The family thinks, \u201cIf we had money, we could go somewhere better. We could get proper dental care. We could be treated with dignity. We could avoid the pain and waiting.\u201d<\/p>\n\n <p>Sometimes money gives faster access in that moment. But the deeper lie is that money is the only path to quality.<\/p>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization rejects that lie. Free must be excellent, competent, stocked, dignified, beautiful, and functional. Free provision must feel like civilization doing its job, not like a family receiving scraps from a system that does not respect them.<\/p>\n\n <h2>The Problem Keeps Being Called Normal<\/h2>\n\n <p>One of the greatest tricks of a broken civilization is that it calls its failures normal.<\/p>\n\n <p>No family space is called normal. Parents exhausted is called normal. Marriage strained by survival is called normal. Children feeling too expensive is called normal. Bad housing is called normal. Bad services are called normal. Free services humiliating people is called normal. Mothers losing softness under pressure is called normal. Fathers losing their minds to work is called normal. Spouses becoming strangers under bills and stress is called normal.<\/p>\n\n <p>Then the family is told to mature. Be an adult. Work harder. Sacrifice more. Stop complaining. That is just life.<\/p>\n\n <p>Many of these things are not natural adult burdens. They are consequences of bad arrangement.<\/p>\n\n <p>Adulthood includes responsibility, discipline, wisdom, correction, maturity, and care. Marriage includes love, faithfulness, service, forgiveness, daily learning, and the serious study of each other. Parenting includes care, teaching, correction, feeding, training, protection, and moments of real effort. But none of that means civilization disorder gets to disguise itself as adulthood.<\/p>\n\n <p>Marriage is not proven by how much the spouses can suffer. Parenting is not proven by misery. Family life is not proven by how much pressure people can survive.<\/p>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization separates real responsibility from artificial suffering.<\/p>\n\n <h2>The Grievance Has a Route<\/h2>\n\n <p>The point is not to complain forever. The point is to trace the grievance back to its source.<\/p>\n\n <p>When a spouse is exhausted, ask what drained them. When parents feel strained, ask what is badly arranged around them. When children feel expensive, ask why their needs have been turned into constant purchases. When a family cannot enjoy a simple day outside, ask where the free, safe, beautiful public spaces are.<\/p>\n\n <p>When free care feels humiliating, ask who governed it badly. When a home cannot get basic tools without serious thought, ask why ordinary household ease is behind a money gate. When marriage time disappears, ask what stole it. When family life feels harder than it needs to be, do not immediately blame the family. Trace the pressure.<\/p>\n\n <p>Much of it routes back to bad governance, bad land use, bad public design, bad work structure, bad food systems, bad transport, bad housing, bad healthcare organization, bad child-space planning, and bad civilization priorities.<\/p>\n\n <p>That is why Trott Bailey Family Civilization is not just a set of beautiful ideas. It is a correction. It says family life is the center of civilization design.<\/p>\n\n <h2>What Trott Bailey Family Civilization Stands Against<\/h2>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization stands against making spouses choose between time together and household stability. It stands against making children feel like financial punishment. It stands against fathers being swallowed by work. It stands against mothers being worn down by unsupported care. It stands against public spaces that forget children and families.<\/p>\n\n <p>It stands against free services that feel like scraps. It stands against bad governance being excused as normal life. It stands against money being treated as the only path to dignity. It stands against civilization dumping pressure onto the family and then calling the family weak.<\/p>\n\n <p>\u201cThat\u2019s life\u201d is not good enough. \u201cThat\u2019s being an adult\u201d is not good enough. \u201cAt least it\u2019s free\u201d is not good enough. \u201cWork harder\u201d is not good enough. \u201cJust communicate better\u201d is not good enough when the marriage is being invaded by systems that needed correction.<\/p>\n\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not accept family suffering as background noise. It does not look at strained spouses and shrug. It does not look at tired parents and call it normal. It does not look at children being treated as expenses and call it reality. It does not look at badly governed services and call them generosity. It does not look at money gates and call them adulthood.<\/p>\n\n <p>It names the disorder and builds the correction.<\/p>\n\n <h2>The Condensed Truth<\/h2>\n\n <div class=\"truth\">\n <p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization does not shrug at family strain and call it adulthood. It does not romanticize exhaustion. It does not treat sleeplessness, poverty, unsupported care, bad governance, and money gates as natural proof that people are mature. It traces the grievance back to civilization disorder and designs against it.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n <\/article>\n <\/main>\n<\/body>\n<\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Trott Bailey Family Civilization Does Not Shrug at Family Suffering Trott Bailey Family Civilization Article Trott Bailey Family Civilization Does Not Shrug at Family Suffering Trott Bailey Family Civilization stands against the lazy answer that says, \u201cThat\u2019s life.\u201d When spouses are worn down, people say, \u201cThat\u2019s marriage.\u201d When parents are exhausted, people say, \u201cThat\u2019s parenting.\u201d…<\/p>\n<div class=\"read-more-link\"><a href=\"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/no-shrugging-our-shoulders-at-family-suffering\/\">Read More<\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":118485,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_tbfbkm_featured_url":"","_tbfbkm_featured_mime":"","_tbfbkm_featured_type":"","_tbfbkm_featured_title":"","_tbfbkm_featured_poster_url":"","_tbfbkm_featured_mode":"","_tbfbkm_featured_music_video_url":"","_tbfbkm_featured_music_video_items":[],"_tbfbkm_featured_music_video_slide_duration":0,"fifu_image_url":"","fifu_image_alt":"","wds_primary_category":1,"footnotes":"","_tbfbkm_featured_dynamic_movie_id":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-118643","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-random-tbu-1drop"],"tbfbkm_featured_media":null,"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/118643","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=118643"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/118643\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":118646,"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/118643\/revisions\/118646"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/118485"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=118643"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=118643"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/trottbaileyfamily.com\/1drop\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=118643"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}